Letting Go Class w/Namaste Ritual
Modules1-4 (Audio, Text, and Video)
Let's begin with a lighthearted assignment that has a big impact! From this assignment, you may find out that you already use detachment, or that you'd like to start.
Imagine yourself in a situation. You go to a new Italian restaurant and order pasta fagioli. You don’t expect reality which is that everything changes. Instead, you unreasonably expect that the pasta fagioli you’re going to get includes ditalini, white beans, garlic, escarole, chicken broth, and a sprinkle of Romano cheese.
But, you get your bowl. It has red beans, the escarole is chopped bigger than you’re used to, and there are carrots in your soup!
To you, this is sacrilege! You gasp.
You might be distraught enough to not like the soup that’s in front of you and to even tell other people the restaurant isn’t authentic because you’re comparing it to your expectation instead of enjoying it for what it is.
You’re having trouble detaching from what you’ve known and just being in the present, so that you can enjoy the present.
Detachment is not a cold, stoic thing. It's a thing that can help you really, truly, live and enjoy. (More about this in the module 2 audio that follows.)
So, maybe you're a person who loves surprises and experiences and cannot relate to the sacrilege of carrots in pasta fagioli. But is there some other expectation or attachment to outcomes that you'd like to work on?
Assignment to Think About: What is your "pasta fagioli?" In what ways can you imagine that detachment may enhance your life? Is it difficult? Why or why not?
and 3 Preparatory Tips
Audio Talk & Text
Tip: Know Namaste (Sanskrit), or Know Your Own Chosen Power Word...
Namaste can be interpreted as "The Divine in me acknowledges The Divine in you." And to customize your ritual if you'd rather not use namaste, you may replace this greeting to yourself with a word that acknowledges your relationship to your Higher Power, or to Your Reason for Having Life, or to the power within you - however you best understand it. (And, it is okay of this changes!)
Your greeting to yourself must acknowledge the power
that is in you.
Tip: Know Your Cleansing Mantra to Prepare for Ritual...
Example Mantra: "My thoughts become my words which become the actions that belong to me. I am responsible for those actions. I will think healing and love. I will speak from healing and love. I will act upon healing and love by releasing and allowing The Divine (or other word) to work in others. I am not in control of everything, and that's a relief."
Tip: Think "Mindfulness is Power and Power is Mindful"...
Mindfulness includes taking personal responsibility for our own perception and not trying to control anything about anyone else. In the same way that you are responsible for your choices, so too is everyone else. (Trying to control another's situation is the same as taking power away from them. Every person deserves to learn and to exercise their own healing power.)
We are each responsible, and we are each responsible to find our own power source- and then revel in it with gratitude!
When we do what we can about a situation and then let go of whatever else we cannot or should not try to control (like other people's choices), we free ourselves to be more in-control of our true personal responsibilities and the equally important enjoyments, expressions, and self-care that make us functional and well.
When we are functional and well, we serve ourselves and others in a better way. Our capacity to facilitate help (instead of overstepping our boundaries, for instance) increases!
We often try to control situations because we're running on fear. We can be susceptible to overstepping and even disabling others with our need to control out of fear.
But some good news is that letting go of control is the best way to summon up our power (or make way for our power source) and discover clear solutions for ourselves and others.
And, it is totally possible to let go. We were built for it. It just takes some practice and commitment.
The Namaste Ritual for Letting Go
(Imagery & Movement)
Video "Namaste Ritual Demo"
Here, I share my own ritual which you can practice "as is". If you are uncomfortable with the wording, you can also consider it a template, and customize it to suit you.
Personal truth and truthful expression are important. Feel free to use words and imagery that are truthful and meaningful - to YOU.
The 123 Technique
The 123 Technique is a one small scoop, another small scoops, then a big scoop of the first concerns that enter your mind... in under 2 minutes.
Try this condensed, quick version of the ritual in a few different ways and find what's comfortable to you.
You can use The 123 Technique when you are short on time, or when you are in an unfavorable situation for a deep meditation or ritual. (Long and deeply relaxing rituals and meditations change your state of consciousness. We are not after that here. This ritual is just as suitable at home as when you are out and about and need be aware of your surroundings.)
Assignments to Try While You Find Your Comfort Zone
Method 1: Your first two (small) scoops are your biggest immediate priorities or concerns, and everything else goes into you third (big) scoop.
Method 2: Your family goes into the first (small) scoop, your next biggest priorities and concerns go into your second (small) scoop, and everything else goes into your third (big) scoop.
Method 3: Try putting everything into one big scoop (or globe).
Method 4: Come up with your own technique!
Method 5: Choose a method from above, and use only imagery - without the movements. You can also try this with eyes open when you are in a public setting. The result of being able to do this can be quite empowering.
Method 6 (Alternative Imagery): If you still have trouble with imagery, use the 123 Technique by focusing on 3 small objects, like ping pong balls or stones that you can easily carry with you when you're out.
Ideas to Aid in Development